Telling people you are having WLS, in my opinion, is a personal matter. I have told some, and now I wish I had not. These are reactions of some people I have told.
Mom: She is obese and diabetic: She is worried about complications, but seems generally supportive. But she would not dissuade me even if she thought it was a terrible idea. That’s just how my mom is.
Best-Friend # 1: She is morbidly obese and diabetic had mentioned getting banded a couple years ago. She scoffed at the idea when I told her about RNY. Told me her doctor is against WLS, and abruptly changed the subject. A few months later we were talking about it again, she brought it up not me (I learned my lesson!) and she asked if I was worried I would have loose skin and look old. I said no, I look far younger than I am and am not worried. She hasn’t brought it up since.
Best-friend #2. Had RNY 3 years ago. Has lost over 100 lbs but is still obese. But she started off at a very high weight. She is super supportive. Came with me to my first informational meeting and answers all my questions! She is totally behind me 100 %
Aunt: Overweight perhaps bordering on obese. I did not tell my aunt, but she saw a post my friend wrote on my FB before I told my friend I wasn’t going to tell everyone I know about my decision to pursue surgery (she did, but that was her decision) So, before I deleted it, my aunt figured out I was looking at getting the surgery. Since then she has told me three horror stories of WLS, gives me incorrect stats and info, and just yesterday told me of a friend of a friend who nearly died from the band. Mind you my aunt exaggerates and after several questions I surmised she was making half the S%#t up.
Boyfriend: A little overweight, excited, and supportive!
So, My boyfriend thinks friend #1 and Auntie are both jealous. Is it that simple? Are they afraid of what will happen to me, like I will die or have complications. Well lets dissect. Friend #1 never mentioned complications, just cosmetic issues. So, maybe, just maybe jealously plays a factor. We were skinny together and then got fat together. So maybe that has some truth to it. But, why be jealous. When my friend#2 had her WLS I wasn’t jealous, I was happy for her!
My aunt keeps mentioning complications, but is a very vain woman. I can totally see her trying to put fear into me to stop me from having it. But in reality who knows what peoples motives are.
So for now, I am not telling anyone else. I cannot surround myself with negativity or keep defending my decision especially to people who are uninformed or worse Misinformed. I have researched for months and really do not need to be lectured to.
Sorry for that mini-rant. It has been burning me up all night and day what my aunt was saying. And it was Mother’s day too! I just wanted to hang out with the moms in my family with my little girl and enjoy the day but instead I get lectured to.
OK, now that I got that off my chest, I feel better!